Loving Those In Shadowed Spaces

In this often complicated world, it’s important to recognize that many radiant souls have a difficult time trusting the Light that flows through their own spirit.

Nothing can negate or diminish that true force of divine presence, ever. But each soul has the right to trust their own Light for guidance and direction or to trust the shadowed forces of manipulation and control that may be.

If we genuinely honor and trust that Light is a valid and true force of Power, we must also acknowledge that there is always an opposing reflection of that Power. For our purposes, let’s look at that opposing force as ‘shadowed energy’ today.

Shadowed energy is fed and nurtured by fear, greed, desperation, loneliness, pain, and perceptions of loss and lack.

Many of us can admit that we align with each of these shadows just a bit in our world. And that’s healthy. It keeps us balanced, by bringing contrast to the heart-centered choices we work hard to embrace.

But, I believe that AWARENESS is key in this great big beautiful world. So it’s also important to recognize that some of the people who we love dearly, are not able to find a healthy balance between these two forces of power. Some give unseen permission and authority to those shadowed energies on a daily basis.

That does not mean that the Light does not exist within. It means that they are personally aligning with the shadowed energies right now.    

They are viewing the world, and their personal experiences, through the eyes of fear, greed, desperation, loneliness, pain, and perceptions of loss and lack. It’s comforting for them, in this moment, and is naturally creating experiences that support that alignment.  As a fact, they have given control over to the dark-side for a moment. No judgment is intended. We’ve all been there.

Their choices hold no ‘right or wrong’ connotations!!   It is a factual summation of where they are currently at.

So, what does this mean for the people who love them so dearly?? How can they maintain a healthy relationship with someone who isn’t comfortable in the frequency of love, respect, trust, and faithfulness??

I had a dream last night. In this dream I was able to witness all that was taking place from a place of awareness, not emotional reaction. I had a family member come to visit. I could see that this is the person I love and care for, but I also knew that they had made choices that aligned with the dark forces of shadowed energy.  

In the twinkle of his eye I could see the spark that I knew I loved. So I focused on the Light that I knew was there. In several scenarios, his dark side literally began to show, through glowing red eyes or horns slowly beginning to rise up all over his body. He didn’t consciously trigger the dark transformation. It was beyond his control in that exact moment.

In each scenario a physical guardian would mysteriously show itself the moment the shadow overtook my loved one. The guardian would silently walk between us, with glowing eyes of White Light. In this light, all shadowed energy would depart and leave. But the clearing wouldn’t be permanent, because my loved one would continuously recall the shadowed energy again and again. 

As I watched my loved one walk away the last time, I realized that I can’t deny the shadowed force that some choose to align with.

I can love them through all of it!! But, loving them does not mean that I am willing to support their decisions to be governed and at home in shadowed energies.

If they choose that path, they would have to walk alone, until they are ready to begin exploring the Light that lives within them as well. Only they can make the choice that is right for them. ♥

I’m sharing this dream teaching with you now because I believe that many of us hold on desperately to the beauty we know is there, somewhere within the soul we love.

We sometimes surrender our own comfort to support the ‘people’ we love. But, if we stand with awareness, we may recognize that they personally choose the pain and struggle right now.

If we let go of judgement, we can see that they’re welcoming the pain and the struggle that they know.

They won’t fight for more until they are done with that experience. So, tell them that you LOVE them always. But, make it clear that you choose Light, Love, Joy and Peace!!

You have a right to choose what is best for YOU as well. 

My heart reaches to every bright one lost in shadow. With power, I remind them that they are loved.

© Alania Starhawk 2015

3 thoughts on “Loving Those In Shadowed Spaces”

  1. Thank you so very much for this beautiful and truth-filled sharing Alania. This was so very needed today. On this day, I too am experiencing a loved one that I MUST let go of because of alcohol and drug addiction. After almost a year, I know now that I can not be the one to bring positive change, that it must come from within her and she is not ready. Your post has helped me so very much. Again, I thank you. With love, Chante Ishta

    1. I feel so truly blessed to have inspired you!! We are in the shadowed months…and we are all feeling the intensity of unbalanced energies. But spirit just reminded me this morning…that what needs to shift is “our need to be the key for their transformation”. So i’m paying close attention to my own thought reactions. Am I really in non-judgment…while choosing what honors me…and them.

      I love you sweet one!! Thank you for sharing your LIGHT today!!!

  2. Great post as always. I have attempted to ‘save’ many people from themselves. Not even one has really changed. Well why should they. It’s not my decision and I don’t know what others need to do. So…..I don’t do this anymore. Instead I smile and give them a bit of my energy, wish them well and continue on my way. It’s much less taxing and actually I am no longer depleted by doing a job that was never mine in the first place. Sounds a bit ruthless but I see it as compassion for both me and thee.

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